The dos and don’ts of a functional relationship can be difficult for any man to master. (And if you’re worried that you’re blowing it, then here are the 5 problems you must pay attention to that could be sinking your relationship.) Whether you know it or not, you may be driving away the women you’re interested in thanks to bad behaviors that you’ve unfortunately made into a habit. Changing your ways isn’t always easy, but it can sometimes be the necessary step toward becoming a fuller, better man.
BEING TOO AGGRESSIVE
“Trying to be suggestive or overly sexual way too soon. Trying to ask me what I like sexually when I’ve known you for 45 minutes. Assuming I’d like all the things you’re explicitly stating that you’d do when it’s our second or third time meeting creates so much second hand embarrassment it makes me want to vomit.” (Source).
COMPARING HER TO OTHER WOMEN
“Comparing me to other girls constantly. It’s seriously not what I signed up for, dude.” (Source).
INSULTING YOUR EXES
“Men who say all their exes are ‘bitches’ or ‘crazy’. I’m not saying there aren’t shitty people out there, of course there are. And we’ve all dated one or five in our lifetimes. But if all the women you’ve ever been in a relationship with are the worst, maybe you are the problem, buddy.” (Source).
“Asking me for nudes or trying to send me nudes. I do not want to see your penis. It will not turn me on.” (Source).
ONLY FOCUSING ON WOMEN YOU’RE ATTRACTED TO
“Guys who treat women they don’t find attractive like shit. You may be the hottest [motherf*cker] in here, but if you think you’re too good to say thank you to the girl who just helped you with something or manage a few sentences of small talk to the person you just met, don’t let the door hit you on your way out.
Chivalry doesn’t end where you don’t want to put your dick.” (Source).
IGNORING HER INTELLIGENCE
“Dismissing all my interests and ideas as stupid or not smart enough.” (Source).
FAILING TO SEE HER FOR WHO SHE REALLY IS
“Guys that are into the idea of me, but not necessarily me.
For instance, they will buy me roses, dainty little diamonds, and take me to concerts. There is nothing wrong with that but nothing really right either. After a while, I want them to know me.
I want them to know that I like daisies and gladiolus but like a potted plant even more. Roses remind me of death and bribery. I like cheap statement jewelry and I hate big crowds and a lot of noise.
The most romantic guy I ever went out with bought me a case of diet A&W root beer because I said that I loved it. I always appreciated what he did for me because he tuned into me rather than what a ‘woman’ wants.” (Source).